To conclude this series, we will discuss the 7th principle from “The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work” book by Dr. John M. Gottman.
7. Create Shared Meaning:
Creating shared meaning in marriage is so important! You can create shared meaning with your spouse with the use of goals, dreams, rituals, traditions, and symbols! Establishing those different things will increase meaning in your marriage. Creating shared meaning is very rewarding.
On a Huffington Post, author Terry Gaspard shared 4 ways that couples can build a stronger relationship with shared meaning. Those include:
- Sharing a common dream or vision: Create common goals with your spouse that help you focus on the bigger picture! Shared dreams add more meaning to your marriage. As you do that, the upsets of life will be less bothersome.
- Talking about your shared vision: Communicate with your spouse, and turn toward one another. Doing this can increase happiness in your marriage.
- Creating daily or weekly rituals: Rituals will enable you to spend quality time with your spouse. These are the little things that bring you closer together as a couple.
- Implementing your shared goals: Work on your goals together! Shared goals make you a stronger couple. These goals can also strengthen your bond with your spouse.
Conclusion: Applying these 7 principles can help make your marriage long-lasting. These principles help couples grow closer, which is the goal! Applying these principles to my own marriage has been very rewarding. It has increased our happiness and love for each other.